Taking a personal turn thanks to an idea from Wes, one of our patrons, Greg discusses his dating experiences in Thailand and what it’s like to be married to a Thai woman. From early dating stories as a clueless n00b to strange stories of getting used to Thai culture Greg (and Ed!) both start off with a few funny stories
Next, Greg tells the story of meeting and eventually marrying his wife. Their story was a traditional one of a dinner with several groups of friends, a flirty Greg…and the rest is history as they say. Greg gives his thoughts on how we, as foreigners, must be flexible in everything from dating to having kids, to building relationships with the parents…luckily, Greg’s wife (and her family) are pretty open-minded and reasonable about his weird western ways.
Finally, the boys try to piece together some advice to help the next person looking for a serious relationship in Thailand, including being patient and open-minded, especially if you actually live in the country. The quick version: patience, flexibility, and quality over quantity!
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Hi guys!
So I just listened to today’s episode, thanks for making isolation tolerable!
I’m a western woman living in Thailand trying to date Thai guys and finding it lovely but it’s also freaking me out!!! Now, I just got into my second serious relationship with a Thai guy and there is something that is extremely different to what I’m used too and that is that the guys here are very fast when it comes to saying that they love you and to talk about marriage, are Thai girls the same? I don’t know how to express this but the guys honestly mean what they say … it’s not just to get sex …
Also they are very quick to make sure I meet the family …
Why does this scare me so? I’m 40+ and I really want a serious forever relationship…
Oh, well, take care and stay safe!
/Nina
Hey Carina, thanks for writing! That’s a funny story, and something I’ve experienced too. In my early years here (this is Greg) I was dating a very lovely Thai girl who spoke very little English. After a few weeks of dating she asked me if I loved her, and it freaked me out a bit. I couldn’t explain the nuance in a way she’d understand, so I literally drew a graph explaining that love grows over time! We didn’t last much past that. I think Thais use ‘love’ much more liberally than we do, possibly due to the proximity of ‘heart’ (jai) to so many descriptives of Thai culture? And family…well, it’s a very family-oriented society. For westerners, meeting the family is a huge step, but for Thais, it’s probably akin to us taking a new beau to meet friends. Just my thoughts. But good luck, invite us to the wedding! 🙂
Hi guys,
Did Ed just use the phrase “long time” guys to describe y’all? LOL!
-JRCIII
It applies!